Embrace The Chaos

Dear Friends,

We're creatures of habit. We like things nice and orderly.

This isn't a bad thing.

Our brains like shortcuts. Our brains are wired to seek safety and comfort.

Because safety and comfort lead to survival. And that's what we're programmed to do at our deepest levels.

But as we all know, even the best-laid plans can be derailed at the drop of a hat.

The good news, this isn't a bad thing.

Quite the contrary. Chaos can be a great thing.

I've been reading (technically listening through Audible) to Nassim Nicholas Taleb's book Antifragile, which talks about being able to thrive in the chaos. Not just surviving unscathed but coming out better and stronger on the other side.

The best place to start is to expect that things can and will get chaotic.

The last few months for me have been a beautiful whirlwind of working, coaching, getting engaged, building a new business, and building a house. It's been a wild ride, to say the least. And honestly, I’ve LOVED it.

I could have done everything in my power to prevent this madness. But I didn't.

I chose to embrace it.

This isn't to say I threw up my hands and let the will of the gods do their worst.

I just chose to be ok with an irregular, uncertain schedule. I chose to be ok with everything not going as planned or as expected.

I controlled what I could and accepted what I couldn’t. Though, this wasn’t just blind acceptance either. Instead, I doubled down on my willingness to be flexible and adapt.

Because that's really how we survive and thrive in any environment; we adjust and adapt. Remember, it's not the strongest or the smartest who come out on top but those who are the best able to adapt.

Change is inevitable. Chaos is no different.

We can choose to fight this. Or we can choose to embrace it, factor it in, and be ready to adjust and adapt as quickly as life can throw something our way.

If you find yourself getting overwhelmed, it's 100% ok to pause for a moment, gather yourself, and then jump right back in.

Pausing is drastically different than stopping. Just remember that a pause requires that you get started again (ahem, take action) otherwise, you will, in fact, be stopping.

I believe we're often a lot stronger and more powerful than we think.

Drop the notion that things should be a certain way, embrace anything and everything, and I promise you'll find yourself wherever it is that you want to be.

It might not be on the original path, but we’ll get there.

Oh yes, one way or another we’ll get there.

With Love,

Ev

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