Will This Add Value

Dear Friends,

Over the past few years, I’ve learned a quite lot.

And I’m convinced that there is absolutely nothing "good" or "bad" in this world.

You see, “good” and “bad” are our opinions, not inherent facts. What appears good to someone may seem bad to someone else. Both, are "right" (now, I also don’t think there is necessarily a right or wrong, but we’ll leave that for another day).

There is an excellent Taoist story about these seemingly "good" and “bad” things that happen in this farmer’s life that inevitably seem to work out in his favor. 

For example, his son attempts to ride an untamed horse, falls, and breaks his leg. But inevitably, military officials came to the village and deemed the son unfit due to the broken leg. 

The neighbors offered sympathy for the first scenario and were congratulatory in the latter.

The farmer's response each time his neighbors on whether it was wonderful or unfortunate: "Maybe."

So, if there is no such thing as good/bad/right/wrong, what the hell are we to do?

What I’ve found is that it’s a perspective shift. So it’s not that things can’t be good or bad but rather it’s acknowledging that these are just our opinions and that classifying something as good or bad doesn’t necessarily give us anything actionable to work with.

Instead, consider actions and outcomes to be either supportive of what you want or a hindrance to what you want.

Will this add value to your life or will this remove value from it?

This is a question we can ask in every area of our life (y’all know I’m a big believer that nothing exists in isolation).

In a nutritional context, ask yourself “will eating this add value to my body and my life?” 

Hopefully, the answer is yes. But if not, that's cool too. What’s important is the perspective, the awareness, and the opportunity to consciously assess what we’re about to do.

Because here’s the thing, an ice cream may not add value to your body composition goals, but it may add value to your happiness and enjoyment if you’re sharing the cone with someone special.

But I’d be hard pressed to find the value in mindlessly demolishing a bag of potato chips while watching Ellen.

Context matters.

And while it’s easy to assess whether something is supportive or a hinderance from one perspective, we must practice viewing certain actions at the macro-level.

This is why it’s crucial to uncover what is important to us. What matters to you? 

Not only in the here and now because you just set some new goals or targets. But in the grand scheme, big picture of your life.

And are the things that you’re doing adding value or are they slowly eating away at your hard work?

It’s a simple shift in perspective, but one that I think will add immense value in your day-to-day.

I’d love to know how this works for you. Let me know.


With Love,


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Evan CookComment