It's Your Fault

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Dear Friends,

If your day sucks, it’s your fault.

Yup. I said it. Not sugar coating it today. Coming in hot with a bit of a fiery mood so buckle up for this one.

Now that we got that out of the way let me explain why this is ok and is a good thing.

But first, which would you rather be: powerful, or powerless?

Full of power? Or lacking power?

I think I can guess which you’d choose.

If you don’t think your shitty day is your fault, then you’ve just unintentionally accepted the latter option. Anytime you believe something to be out of your control, you forgo any power or opportunity to do something about it. You’re powerless to the situation.

But, and this is a big BUT, when you acknowledge that it’s your “fault,” that is, you take FULL RESPONSIBILITY for everything in your life, well, things start to happen. What kind of things?

Well, it depends on your situation but usually things of a seemingly magical nature.

Here’s what I mean.

Taking full responsibility for everything in our lives and I seriously mean everything - the good, the bad, the messy, and the down right fucked up - we’re acknowledging the power in our lives and our ability to take control.

We may not always be able to control the outcome of the physical situation. Look, I get it. Bad shit happens to good people.

But no matter what happens you always, and I mean always, have the power to choose how you will respond to the situation.

Most people, don’t respond so well. It’s not a conscious choice. Something seemingly "bad" happens, and they think their only option is to be upset. Or even the reverse holds true. Something seemingly “good” happens, and they think their only response is to be happy.

Now, those very well might be the appropriate responses for the situation, but the difference between them and us is that we choose how we want to respond. We acknowledge our real power or as Viktor Frankl calls it, the last of our human freedoms.

No matter what happens, no one can ever tell us how to feel. No matter what happens, no one can ever take away our power to choose how we will respond in a given situation.

So, here’s what I want you to do and I’m going to do this myself.

There are two parts to this.

First, tonight at some point before you go to bed, repeat the following: “Tomorrow is going to be the best day of my life."

Second, when you wake up the next morning, repeat the following: “Today is going to be the best day of my life."

That's it.

Will every day really end up being the best day of your life?

I don’t know.

But there’s only one way to find out.

With Love,



P.S. Shout out to the homies Ben H. and Mark K. for being so damn cool and providing the inspiration for this one.

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