I Hate Losing, But I Love Learning

Dear Friends,

I hate losing.

There are very few things I can't stand in this life.

Losing is one of those things.

I’m not the most competitive person, until I am.

I don’t usually seek out many competitions or contests.

I’m a collaborator. My goal is to bring forth the best work possible.

But often competition does just that - it brings forth the best. And if that's what it takes to get better, make progress, and improve, then sign me up.

Recently, I competed in the Toastmaster’s Table Topics contest. I had won at the Area level, so I moved on to the District level.

If it isn’t obvious already, I didn’t win. I didn’t even place.

Did I mention I hate losing?

But what I do love is learning.

We either win, or we learn.

There was a lot I learned from this experience.

I got the opportunity to learn from the best Toastmaster’s speakers in the area, how they crafted their speeches, how they presented their speeches, the nuanced things that they brought to life because they understood how the scoring worked.

I love learning.

Because learning makes us better.

Losing can make us better, too.

Because it can drive us to do better.

It’s a double whammy.

We just need to make sure we know how to use this situation to our advantage. To capitalize on the new information we've just obtained.

Many times, we lose and curl up into a ball of pity and despair.

Don’t do that.

Losing gives you the opportunity to self-assess and learn what needs to be improved. Losing can reignite a fire that wasn’t burning as hot as it needed to when you needed it.

Watch the game film of your life. Replay it. What would you do differently next time? Where are the gaps? How can we fill those in?

Don't go super deep and start replaying some of your worst memories. That's not what we're after, and that certainly won't be productive. Focus on the situations and scenarios where you know that you stand something to learn.

I hate losing. Hate it. But it’s good for me.

It’s not good for anyone else. You don’t want me on your heels.

Losing can be good for you, too, my dear friends. As long as we know how to use it to our advantage.

Don’t get discouraged when you lose.

Learn. Adjust. Adapt.

Then come out swinging once again.

With Love,

Evan CookComment